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Just because somebody doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have! ~Duncan Phillips

The drummer from Newsboys followed me on Twitter (fan girl moment...ok) and while checking out his tweets, I came across this. That statement is so true.
For a very long time now, I have always held this bar with how I wanted a certain close family member to treat me. The expectations I had because of their role, and how I truly desire to be treated, caused me to give myself this weird ultimatum. Either they loved me...or they didn't. There was no such thing as an in between.
This person doesn't treat me how I believe I should be treated. They don't act the way I feel they should, and therefore they don't care about me.
His statement makes much sense in this situation. Maybe this person is dealing with something that limits their trust, their willingness to emote, and show affection. They could be guarded, they could be hurting from the lack of love somewhere else. So they give me what they can, in their situation. Not that they don't love me...they love me sure enough. It's just not to the point where I would like it to be.
Sometimes we really have to look outside of ourselves and see that others act off of what they're feeling. Same as us. We can't forget that someone may be ignoring us, not because they don't like us, but because they're hurting.
At this point, we pray.
We pray, we love, we encourage, and most of we listen to what the Father instructs us to do.